I just want to be "Granny"
by, 07-19-2013 at 04:30 AM
I have two sons. My younger son was recently married, and has no children. My oldest son, was once married, got a divorce, and then decided to have a baby with his girlfriend. So my grandson has had a rocky life from the beginning. I say that because his parents started raising him together under the same roof. However when my grandson was about 2 1/2 his parents split up. Now normally when this happens, the mom swoops up the child, and the dad is lucky to even see his child from time to time.
This did not happen with my grandson. He has always had both of his parents in his life. He lived under his father's roof until he was 18 years old. His mother was the one that "picked him up", so they could spend time together. Being his grandmother, he spent a lot of time with me as well when both parents were working.
When my grandson was younger, my husband and I would play referee between his parents. We got involved, and probably interfered way too much in the raising of our only grandson. When our grandson turned 18, he moved from dad's house to mom's house. He is now 20 year's old.
Now boys will be boys, I guess. Young people are going to do what they are going to do as they figure out who they are, and what direction they want their lives to take. Bad choices are going to be made sometimes.
As I watch my grandson struggle with issues, and deal with his parents, there are things that I am dying to say, and do, to "straighten the boy out". However, would he really listen? Would I have listened at that age? Relationships change, between a son and his dad, and between a mother and her son.
There is some rebellion going on at the moment, and it is hard for me to see and hear about it. I can't fix it. I won't even entertain the idea of even trying. It's not that I don't care.
I just want to be "Granny".