MTNGIRL

I just emailed you but I'm so sorry. It's blow after blow from her and I can see how it's hard to feel bad for her. But, I agree that you'll feel better about yourself for checking on her, even if you are just going through the motions.

As for the health issues, I wish I knew what to say. I wish I lived closer and we could do it together.

I'm so sorry about your latest encounter with your mom. Good for you in checking on her.

I hope that you can find some motivation when it comes to your health. Please try to stay positive with things. I love you girl and want you with us for a loooooong time.

Ugh your mom frustrates me to no end

You are right if you don't at least go through the motions and check in on her you're going to feel worse..you know why? Because you ARE a good person, a sensitive, compassionate, loving and generous person. No matter what she does or says take heart in the knowledge that you are these things and that so so many people love you and care for you and while her bitterness and nastiness may ding you from time to time it's only because you are so caring.

About your health, Patty you lost 20lbs and kept it off! You CAN do it and frankly you NEED to do it. You need to do it for yourself of course but you need to do it for us and for Kern and for Josh and the future Joshettes that will be running around, they're not even here yet but they NEED you Put your bike in front of the tv and only allow yourself to watch it until you've ridden a certain amount of miles, find a good set of dvds that help get you moving, turn on your stereo and dance!

The DMCA can't be complete without it's Diva

Pattycakes,

Your mom is a sad, cruel, lonely person.

YOU are not, which is why you need to make the obligatory hospital visit. I'd even say you could get away with a phone call on this one, just because you're not up for another encounter right now. Just be prepared for no acknowledgement from her, because that's just how she is. If you expect nothing, at least you won't be disappointed when you get it.

I can't imagine a mom being so mean. I'm so sorry.

As for your health, I know it is hard to move forward when your own family keeps tearing you down. Screw 'em! Lucky for us we have our own new family, with new rules, and we will always lift you UP. You've made a ton of progress this year, so maybe set some new small goals, write a 2 month plan to get through the end of the year. (We should probably all do this in the MCDA anyway.) I wish we could be with you in real life to give you the physical support you need, but you've got more emotional support here than you probably even want!

Patty, I'm sorry you're going through this with your mother. It's really awful when we realize that the person who gave us life isn't such a great person, or sometimes even a good person. Don't allow her to get to you.

As far as your health, dammit, you NEED to get well. It's not easy, I know. It sucks when you feel like you're fighting a losing battle. But you know what? It beats the hell out of the alternative. And there are a lot worse things than dying from neglecting your health, like being alive but horribly disabled, or struggling with chronic health issues that could have been avoided had you taken better care of yourself.

You have a lot of people who love you dearly and value your friendship. We all want you to be OK. You have to summon the strength to pull through this and do what you need to do.