I have always loved roller coasters, and this last year my 8 yr old DD has stared riding them too. I've never really worried about my own safety because I know how rare accidents are. However, now I find I get completely paranoid about my DD's safety when she's on them (with or without me). I'm afraid she'll accidently squeeze out from under the lap bar and fall out the side. It doesn't help that she turned out to be the type that puts her hands in the air and laughs maniacally during the rides. At first, I thought it was just something I would have to get over, like when she started to ride a scooter and I was sure she'd fall and break her arm or something. But the last time we were on BTMRR, she looked at me after a drop and said "Mom, I stood up!" I yelled "What! What do you mean you stood up?! You're not supposed to stand up!" She said she didn't do it on purpose. This must have been during a relatively tame part of the ride, because when I was yelling I also noticed the kids in the seat behind us and I could tell that she wasn't exaggerating - they had these looks on their faces half terrified and half "wow, that was cool". Needless to say, the rest of the ride I held onto her. The problem is, on that ride there is only one lap bar for both passengers, and I am, to put it bluntly, fat, and she is a skinny little thing. Obviously, I can't make the bar go down far enough to keep her in properly.
So I have some questions for other parents or anyone else very familiar with DL:
1) Have you ever felt paranoid about your kid's safety on rides, and how did you deal with it?
2) How should I deal with rides that have only one lap bar? If we ride separately, will they have her riding with a stranger or alone?
3) What happens if someone actually starts falling out of a ride or there's some other problem- do the ride operators notice?