This thread is closed at the request of the OP.
Folks, a thread with a topic along the lines of the one this one, can often be dicey. There were many posts from heart, which sincerely attempted to be helpful. Others, slipped a bit and inserted some off-topic judgement of a personal nature. If we could all leave that judgement at the door, and just deal with the helpful part, threads like this would stand a better chance of surviving to the point of being a genuine asset to the OP and to other parents who might be visiting the parks and hope to have their children participate in this show. This is bound to continue to be a difficult situation for all of those who don't make the cut.