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    Getting grief from others for being a fan

    Lately, I've been getting a lot of grief from family and friends for my growing interest in and passion of Disneyland. More specifically from my brother. I'm 18, he's going on 25 this month. I've noticed that since he's gotten older he's seemed to have some relative difficulty with dealing with his growing responsibility as an adult and his fleeting youth and loss of time to maintain his own interests. His job is ever-demanding and now, as his boss prepares to pack up and move to Los Angeles he's worried about his future, not to mention worrying about the bill of a new home he's having built this year.

    I don't know, but it seems like every chance he gets he pokes fun or questions my interest in Disneyland/Disney. I don't know what his deal is, but he acts as though I'm wasting his time, life, money, etc. Obviously I'm not and I'm spending my own money, time, life, but he always turns to my mom whenever I visit the parks with my friends and complains to her when I go. What's his deal?

    Has he just become jaded by his own life, and is envious that I'm still able to have fun on whim and go the three-hour drive to Disneyland just to have some fun when he cannot, or chooses not to because he's tired from work or is saving money?

    I would think he'd be happy I'm interested in something instead of doing nothing. I would think that he'd be happy I'm spending my time and money at Disneyland instead of on drugs and alcohol with the wrong people.

    I don't know, but its really frustrating and I was just wondering if there were others out there who are dealing with, or dealt with similar grief from others for liking the parks, or having a passion for something that others may not simply understand.

    What kind of grief have you gotten (if any) from friends or family for your Disneyland obsession?

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    Re: Getting grief from others for being a fan

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    Re: Getting grief from others for being a fan

    I just get an uncomfortable feeling like I am weird or something when I talk about the park. Maybe I am, who knows.

    For someone to criticize you, it is going a bit far.

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    hahah My solution is to not talk about it or go THAT often (then again, no car hurts there too...) then again I'm not as "obsessed" as some people.

    Ever make fun of him for being an "adult"? I'm sure that'll hit him the same way. Does you Mom say anything to you or to him? I think he's just jealous and/or sees Disney as a "Kids" things. And that no matter how much you try he'll never "get it" the same way you do. We know the details that go into every little thing about he place and all he sees is a place for kids, might not be the case, but it could be.

    Just tell him to knock it off and to leave you alone because he's insecure about his own future while your still young enough to have fun any way you see fit and that he should be glad you haven't chosen a more unhealthy obsession. If he keeps at it, go for the sucker punch (try comparing the price of your trips to his new house and how he may not have a job soon)
















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    Re: Getting grief from others for being a fan

    I get this occasionally, my boss used to ask me whether or not I went to Disneyland after each weekend, but not so much recently. My family isn't bad about it either, my sister lives in Connecticut and has gone to WDW at least twice in the past year. I know Sunnygirl's family does give her a lot of grief over it as well, her sister makes fun of us for being such "geeks".

    If it's what you love and it makes you happy, don't worry what others think. Live is short, you never know when you won't be able to enjoy the park or disney in general any longer, so have fun while ya can!!

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    Re: Getting grief from others for being a fan

    Quote Originally Posted by Hector
    hahah My solution is to not talk about it or go THAT often (then again, no car hurts there too...) then again I'm not as "obsessed" as some people.

    Ever make fun of him for being an "adult"? I'm sure that'll hit him the same way. Does you Mom say anything to you or to him? I think he's just jealous and/or sees Disney as a "Kids" things. And that no matter how much you try he'll never "get it" the same way you do. We know the details that go into every little thing about he place and all he sees is a place for kids, might not be the case, but it could be.

    Just tell him to knock it off and to leave you alone because he's insecure about his own future while your still young enough to have fun any way you see fit and that he should be glad you haven't chosen a more unhealthy obsession. If he keeps at it, go for the sucker punch (try comparing the price of your trips to his new house and how he may not have a job soon)
















    oh and
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    My mom totally gets me, she likes to "get away from it all" and go to the indian casino every now and then. So she understands that for me, Disneyland is my escape from everything.

    I've told my brother to knock it off before. My 2 pin lanyards have been the subject of many an awkward questioning about prices and "why-for?". Some of my other DL things have caused some questioning and some minor scuffles because he just loves to condescendingly question about things.

    I mean.. Is it really that bad if I have a strong interest in something? Is it bad if my hobby is Disneyland?

    But I digress. Just needed to vent, so I figured I'd vent here with people who might understand a bit more.

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    Re: Getting grief from others for being a fan

    Lanyards!?!















    hahah just kidding, it's not wrong at all to love something, unless it harms yourself or others and I just don't see how that is hurting anyone to have fun at a place we all love.

    As for any memorabilia, just tell him it's an investment for the future and show him some e-bay auctions of older Disneyland stuff.

    Vent away amigo we're all open ears and dry shoulders (if ever needed) and it's good to know your not alone.
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    Re: Getting grief from others for being a fan

    To the contrary, I'm everyone's vacation planning advisor since I know quite a bit (or know people who do) about DL, WDW, and Las Vegas.

    Of course, like anyone who hasn't visited in a while, most my DL information is limited to telling people how much better (or in some cases, worse) it was when I was a boy.

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    Re: Getting grief from others for being a fan

    I've copped grief from various friends over Disney obsession. I've also collected comics for a number of years, and have a slightly obsessive DVD habit. These are all thing people tend to poke (usually good natured) fun at.

    At first, it is easy to get self-conscious about it. However, as with all things, if it is something you enjoy/feel passionately about, then it doesn't matter what others think. It is only when it stops you from functioning in normal society or starts to harm others that a hobby becomes a creepy obsession.

    So, that is what's great about the InterWeb - like-minded individuals getting to discuss stuff they enjoy without people going "Pfft. Disneyland. Dude, that's like SOOOO 1955".

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    Re: Getting grief from others for being a fan

    I am a fan of Both disneyland and Warhammer 40k (a tabletop miniatures game), so I get double the crap from some people. However, there are ways to deal with some popular naggings:

    Them: "This hobby you like is expensive."
    Me: "Compared to what?"

    Them: "But why?"
    Me: "Why Not?"

    Them: "Why do you like something so uncool/stupid/lame/geeky?"
    Me: "Because I was uncool before uncool was cool."
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    Re: Getting grief from others for being a fan

    MasterG, there's a lot going on with your brother. He's going through a very rough time with some of it out of his control, even while he finds himself depending more and more on those parts that he can't control. He's not being fair to you, but that doesn't prevent you from being understanding and fair to him.

    He's taking his frustration with the uncontrolable changes in his life out on you. He sees you, his little brother, seemingly being "irresponsible" while his life is simply in a different stage. I'm sure part of him is thinking that you need to be "responsible" like he is, while at the same time he is envious of the lack of responsibilities you have (compared to his own). Maybe he's not being honest about it with himself and doesn't realize what he's doing and how he's acting. No, its not fair. And I'm sorry about it for you.

    I occasionally get weird looks, but more often than not people end up coming to me or calling me for Disney advice or information. And I've found that a lot of my friends are as big (or nearly so!) of Disney "geeks" as I am, but just never admitted it before! Some of them have found themselves fascinated with the backstories of the park. And many of them now have APs themselves.

    Fortunately, my entire family has always enjoyed the park and have become even bigger fans over the years. My mom even worked there for a winter a few years ago. And my 91 year old grandmother just renewed her own AP!

    But as for your own situation, just try to see what your brother is going through right now and how he is trying to deal with where he is in life. Realize there is a lot going on with him, and even though it isn't your fault maybe try just not bringing Disney up around him for a while. Unfortunately, it sounds like he could use a trip to the park himself. (How long has it been since he went? Maybe you could ask him to go with you sometime. Something to think about, anyway).

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    Re: Getting grief from others for being a fan

    Quote Originally Posted by speederscout
    You can leave your quarter on your way out...
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    Re: Getting grief from others for being a fan

    "Sometimes I lie awake at night and I ask, 'Why me?', then a voice answers 'Nothing personal, your name just happened to come up.'"

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    "Tonight I wash my hands of you
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    Tonight the light is breaking through
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    Re: Getting grief from others for being a fan

    Inflation... what can I say?

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    Re: Getting grief from others for being a fan

    Being a Disney Fan has caused me massive amounts of grief, and it does really get me sometimes. My habits of collecting and personifying Disney Plush and trying to turn every conversation into another Disney Factoid doesn't help my cause. A lot of people around me view Disney as something for kids, which naturally gets me ranting, which makes me look even worse. (Another favorite of theirs is whenever I say 'Disneyland', they say 'You mean the one in Florida?', knowing dam well which one I mean).

    It's become somthing I've had to put up with, and it's hard. The only comfort is knowing that in three years time I can leave them all behind while I go off and live the Disney dream.

    Just my experiences.

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