Alright... I didn't have time to deal with this this morning... and I really don't have time right now because I'm between jobs.... and I was going to use this time to work on my memorial thread but since I am so beyond furious right now I can't see straight and I can't let this go any longer...... esp. when I find out people are making comments about it on the board in other places.
There are times when its better to leave things unsaid. Passive aggressive remarks should remain silent. There are times when things are better addressed in a private message... but since everyone seems hell bent on airing our laundry for the world to see I'm going to join in too.
The internet is a big place. Its as big as the whole planet. And just like with being a part of humanity there will always be people that we get along with, people we don't... and thats ok. I've always thought of the RCMC as a giant cocktail party... a big room full of people and everyone floats around and talks to who they want, about whatever they want and it usually works.
We have a long history, and members have histories... there are things that happened in the past that some of us can't leave in the past because of knowledge we have and yes, that can and does cloud our interactions with others sometimes. I had told others before... you can make your own decisions, just understand that for some of us, there are reasons we feel the way we do.
As to the incidents of this morning.... I'm going to go into this because Barry and I go back a long way. In fact, Barry and I have known each other almost since the beginning of the site, and we are both of the same generations.
Over the course of the last 8 years, Barry and I have had a lot of conversations with each other. I've had a lot of messages that we have sent back and forth both with each other, trying to encourage Barry how to engage other members in a positive manner.
Every one of us at one time or another has had to deal with issues in our life, and many of us have also battled depression of one form or another.
If you recall Barry, I shared with you some years ago information about my own personal struggles with dragons, a struggle that almost lead me to sign myself into a facility... I don't think anyone here except Barry was privileged to that information, until now... since this whole thing is just getting way out of hand. Because I want you to know that the next thing I say is not meant to be mean, or uncaring, because I've spent a lot of time in the past working with Barry, and recommending books and techniques to him that helped me overcome the battle with my own demons and dragons...
Barry, you know I understand where you are coming from since I have been there myself, but when you self depreciate in your posts, you know Barbara and I are going to be all over you... partially because we have known you long enough and well enough and mostly because we do actually care and have tried and will continue to try to get you to self reflect on your words and your actions... because building the esteem you need is an ongoing process, and its on that takes a LOT of work and effort... I know this first hand and I still to this day struggle with some of those dragons that every so often peek around the trees at me... waiting to pounce on me again.
This place is my home. Splashmountain Freak and I gave birth to this place many years ago and I have always kept it out of gold, and kept an open door policy for all to be able to come in. But I also kept it open with the expectation that anyone who came in here would show respect for each other... even if you didn't care for the other person or didn't like someone I expected respect and if you had to.... ignore the others... but what has happened lately has been behind the scenes messaging, dragging people into the drama, backhanded comments, passive aggressive statement, and talking about what is going on in other places on the boards. I can't control what happens in private messages (except when people PM me in panic because someone has sent them a message because someone sent them a message trying to get them to take sides), and I can't even really control what goes on in the other forums.
But I can control myself.
I've been mad enough more than once with things going on here and I've walked away from the RCMC for periods of time before. I can't ever leave for good... this is my home... this is like my child... but this is going to be one of those times because I am so beyond furious right now with all the jr high drama that I'll be taking a break for an undetermined amount of time.