I hate that feeling when you know you should have done what your instinct was telling you.
Here's my latest one....
Last Sunday when we were getting ready for the Renaissance Faire, I went in my daughter's room where I keep all the costumes and got out the ones that I wanted them to choose from. I purposely did not get out this one special one because it is a more expensive costume and has sentimental value to me. A little while later I came in the room to help the girls , and my daughter's friend was wearing the costume I had purposely not gotten out. I was initially taken aback because I couldn't figure out how she had found it. My first thought was "I don't want her to wear that." The top half looked good on her, but the bottom half was too tight around her waist and I was worried she was going to split the seams. Plus it looked a little too sexy for a 10 year old. And my daughter had kind of a strange look on her face that told me something was up but I wasn't sure what. I really did not want her to wear it for all of these reasons , but she looked so happy in it that I thought "Oh well, I guess I'll let her wear it." I don't know why I did that and I am kicking myself now.
During the faire, she was eating a crepe and a huge piece of chocolate covered banana fell on the skirt and made a huge brown spot. As soon as I saw it I just cringed inside. I could tell she felt bad when it happened, but then when we got home, she took off the skirt and just threw it in a heap on the floor. It is a satin skirt so I have to take it to the drycleaners. I really hope they can get the spot out.
What makes me feel even worse about this whole thing is that I've since learned from my daughter that there was more to the story. She told me that she was the one who got the dress out of the closet and that she knew it was really special to me but was going to ask me if it would be okay to wear it. Then she went to take a shower and while she was gone her friend had put it on. When she got out of the shower she told her friend "I was going to wear that if my mom said it was okay." And her friend said "That's too bad because I already have it on." My daughter said she was really mad but thought she had to let her have her way since she was the guest. I asked her "Why didn't you take me aside and tell me what was going on " and she said "I thought you'd tell me the same thing."
Grrrrrrrrr...it makes me so mad thinking about the whole thing. I KNEW I should have followed my instincts.
Oh well....live and learn. It was a good lesson for my daughter too because we had a good talk about when it's good to let a friend have her way and when it's not.