Oh My, the Drama has begun...
many of you know I have an 11 year old daughter, she started Middle School this year at a different school than we had thought she would (we moved over the summer) so she was entirly the new kid, she knew no one.
Just a few days into the year she met and started a fast friendship with several of the "popular" girls -future cheerleaders of America, with out a doubt.(BTW K was always very ppular at her old school, so going into a new school was nerve racking for her, having to start over more than a little stresful.
fast forward to her birthday slumber party (first time I met any of them by the way)...she had fun, they all did I guess, but right after that they started treating her poorly, teasing her about her cloths (for o real reason that I can figure...they say it's too short, to big, to tight, too loose...etc. no matter what she can't win, it's never good enough...)
She's now having a very hard time making new friends (I think because she is already associated with these girls, but I'm not really sure, she's trying though.)
So to help I agreed to letting her have another slumber party (in the planning process now) but to invite this new group of girls over instead of the first group. So She can get to know them better and try to get some friendships going...
meanwhile the first group is still making snarky little comments about odd little things (things that make little to no sense to me...)
She started feeling self consence in the locker room and has recently asked me if we could go shopping (thank goodness she wants cami's and not bras...) which of course I said yes too.
they tease her mostly during dress time in PE (locker room) so she took matters into her own hands yesterday and asked her teacher to move her to a different locker in a different row (good for her, I'm proud of her...she's trying to be proactive) when the teacher asked why she simply said some kids are bugging her (she didn't want to make the situation worse for herself by getting into it, hey we all remember that, at least I do. The teacher understood, did not press the issue and gave her a new locker today.
yesterday strangly enough the girls were complimenting her on her outfit, rather than teasing her about it.
Today when she switched lockers they all went over to see where she had gone and started being nice to her (???)
Tonight she picked out her outfit for tommorow (and wanted my opinion...wow, that's different, she raely wants that. )
then she told me she still wants to be friends with the girls.... (against my better judgement, I said if that's what she want's I would help if I could)
she wanted to wear a necklace...ok no problem there...
she wants to go shopping for more accsessories (necklaces) and she wants to wear lipgloss (she's 11)
I need some advice and opinions...
anyone else dealing with similar situations, or been through this before?
I feel like a fish out of water here....
the politics of young girls,