Since you don't know any of these people in my story, I thought you'd be a nice neutral group of peers to ask for advice.
Last night, my teenagers were talking to my husband and me at the dinner table and we heard some stories from them about their freinds that greatly concerned us....
Our 17 year old twins told us that while they were at a wedding for one of their church youth leaders, several of their 17 year old friends were standing around with them in a big circle talking about how they had recently gotten really drunk, were driving home after that and gotten into an accident where they almost killed someone. They didn't get arrested because they fled the scene and their parents have no idea of what happened. In fact , their parents are pretty clueless about a lot of what they have been doing that my kids have told me about in the last two years. I asked my daughters what they said when they heard the story and one said she didn't say anything while the other asked "Why would you do something like that?"
My 15 year old son told us that his friend , who he has known since he was 6 and went to the same school with till this year when they had to go to seperate high schools, tried smoking pot and is now wanting our son to try smoking pot with him. My son had a long talk with him and told him that he thinks smoking pot is really stupid, that he doesn't want to try it, and that he doesn't want him to smoke it again. Just like the other situation, we know the parents really well and know that they have no idea what their son is doing.
I love all of these kids very much....they have grown up with my kids and I hate that they are making the choices they've been making. I know it's pretty normal teenage stuff to experiment with these things , but I don't want to see any of them get hurt or hurt anyone else. I'm debating whether to talk to them myself and/or talk to their parents as well, but if I do, then they may not tell my kids anything ever again because they might feel betrayed.
What would you guys do in this situation? Any advice would be greatly appreciated!