Yesterday I got the weirdest voicemail. I need some help here!
Here's the situation: I'm co-hosting my best friend's baby shower in three weeks with another of her friends that I don't really know. I mean, I've met her 3-4 times when we're doing couples things, but I have never actually spent time with her with our mutual friend...unless the husbands are involved...parties, dinners...that kind of thing. I don't know her, and my friend never really talks about her to me, so I don't even know a lot about her. She has a one year old. Until three months ago, I didn't even know she had a baby!
So...the shower is at her house. I made all the invites (50) and got them to her...she wanted to mail them. Fine. No problem. It took her a week. She was putting directions to her house in them (I even gave her coordinating paper to do it!), but she ran out of ink, her husband has pneumonia, so she never made it out to buy another printer cartridge, so she decided to sent the rest out with no directions....and it took her a week to do that!
Okay...fine. No problem, we all have weeks like that, no biggie. We're menu-planning. I'm in charge of most of the food and drinks. All righty, whatever, it's at her house, so I'm fine helping out as much as I can financially, and I love my friend, so I'll do anything.
Then yesterday I get this voicemail. Her husband still has pneumonia, she's wondering if I'll come over the week before the shower and play with her baby while she cleans the house. The week BEFORE the shower. Not like the day before, the day of, but the week BEFORE. Won't the house get messy during the week?
Now...I don't know this person. I have never seen her child. Sure, we're doing the party at her house, at her request, and so I'll do things to make it easier on her...but NO. I won't go play with her kid!
And she's not poor. She drives a Lexus SUV, and I happen to know her house is GINORMOUS and when they had it on the market they had it listed at $975,000! Her husband's an attorney. She can hire a babysitter for a few hours the day before the shower if she's really worried about how clean it is.
I left her a really long voicemail explaining all that is going on in my life...which she already knows. The week of the shower is the week we're putting together the auction catalog. I'll be taking $60,000 worth of items from database form into catalog form. The fact that the shower is the very weekend I'm working 48 hours straight on it isn't the happiest thing in the world as it is!! Plus, that's the weekend our old renters are moving out and we're having carpet put into the other house....and we're paying two mortgages this month. It's a stressful month!!
I've had pneumonia, I know it's not fun. But I also have three kids and cope just fine without help ALL THE TIME. She doesn't have pneumonia...he does.
If she doesn't want the shower at her house....she should have said something before the invites went out.....it was her idea anyway. The friend we're doing the shower for is the events coordinator at a downtown hotel on the waterfront. We've had parties and showers there before...I was figuring we'd do it again, but this other girl wanted the shower at her house...so there it is.
I'm soooo not going to her house to watch her baby. Am I wrong?
The thing is...I'd totally do it, any other month. Awkward request be damned, I'd still do it...because that's how I am. But this month, OY! Not gonna happen. I have three kids I already don't see much!