I have a different spin on the wayward relative problem. Mine is my grandmother. We live in California; she lives in Alabama near the Florida state line. She is 77 and in ill health. She has no balance and has been told she MUST use her walker. She doesn't follow her diet (she's diabetic), doesn't use her walker and doesn't tell her doctor very important info. She fractured her spine last May; Mom and I both went to help out after she left the hospital. When we left, she told us she didn't want us to come back at the same time because we were mean to her. We made her do her therapy exersizes, wear her brace, use her walker and follow her diet (really , huh?). She's been in the hospital twice since then because of insulin problems. Tonight we got a call she has fallen again and broken her leg. She had to be transfered to a larger hospital in Florida and is having surgery in the morning. We are really at the end of our ropes. Neither Mom or I can go back and stay unlimited amounts of time. Even if we could just drop everything and move, there is nowhere in the small town she lives in we could get jobs to support ourselves and she refuses to consider moving. We have tried hiring some one to help out and when they arrive, she refuses to let them in. I'm just so frustrated with the whole situation I'm having a hard time being objective. And my poor Mom is practicly pulling her hair out. Any input, suggestions or opinions would be greatly appreciated, I could really use a fresh perspective on this.