During my "not trying" period of about 2 years, I learned to find romance in things around me, and that love can come from those people already in my life. I learned to savor that love, and also learned to love being by myself.
And then, when I totally wasn't expecting it, I met Ken. And, it's been the best relationship I've ever had, because I've been comfortable with being alone, and we respect each other as seperate people as well as a unit.
Take time for you right now. Love is all over the place.