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    Question Advise for the clueless please?

    Hey ladies, I need some help!

    I've been emailing with a guy for about a month now and all of a sudden, he sent me his phone number! I was like "well that a good sign but now what" Iím 19, but Iím highly inexperienced with this sort of connection and I don't know what to do.

    What I sent back was whatís the best time to call, so I have some time before he e-mail back

    What should I do, what do you think?


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    Re: Advise for the clueless please?

    Ummm...Logically your next step would be to call him.

    Use your caller ID blocker so if he does turn out to be majorlly psycho he can't stalk you.
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    Re: Advise for the clueless please?

    i forgot, also he mentioned a dinner date...only thing is, he wants me to cook, i don't honestly mind, but i'd thik that would definatly come later so as no one knows where the other lives...whats an alternative so i don't look like i'm avoiding the idea and more just, postponing


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    Re: Advise for the clueless please?

    If you want to call him, call him, it's up to you. If you don't feel comfortable, then just tell him. But, as started before, make sure you have caller id blocker, just in case. You'll never know with people you meet over the internet.

    About him wanting you to cook dinner for the two of you.....that doesn't sound right. You hardly know each other, and before that can happen, you'd need to feel comfortable with him knowing where you live and talking to him face-to-face, if that is what you want.

    Figure out if this is really want you want, first, you are only 19. It's up to you, and if you feel you can trust this person.
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    Re: Advise for the clueless please?

    Quote Originally Posted by krystledm View Post
    i forgot, also he mentioned a dinner date...only thing is, he wants me to cook, i don't honestly mind, but i'd thik that would definatly come later so as no one knows where the other lives...whats an alternative so i don't look like i'm avoiding the idea and more just, postponing
    Ew. If a guy brings up a first date, and he wants YOU to cook? He is either: a) creepy or b)crazy. That's like asking you to dinner and expecting you to pay.

    I'd suggest inviting him to a nice restaurant, instead (Dutch, if he's having a $ issue). I'm assuming by this, that you guys haven't met in person yet. So, I think the best approach would be a public dinner.
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    Re: Advise for the clueless please?

    Quote Originally Posted by Bibliophile View Post
    Ew. If a guy brings up a first date, and he wants YOU to cook? He is either: a) creepy or b)crazy. That's like asking you to dinner and expecting you to pay.

    I'd suggest inviting him to a nice restaurant, instead (Dutch, if he's having a $ issue). I'm assuming by this, that you guys haven't met in person yet. So, I think the best approach would be a public dinner.


    I agree very much. Any meeting should definitely take place in a safe, PUBLIC place.
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    Re: Advise for the clueless please?

    Quote Originally Posted by Bibliophile View Post
    Ew. If a guy brings up a first date, and he wants YOU to cook? He is either: a) creepy or b)crazy. That's like asking you to dinner and expecting you to pay.

    I'd suggest inviting him to a nice restaurant, instead (Dutch, if he's having a $ issue). I'm assuming by this, that you guys haven't met in person yet. So, I think the best approach would be a public dinner.
    Hell, if this is a first meeting, don't even do dinner - do a Starbucks mtg. But whatever you do, make sure it's a public place in a good area - and let people know where you will be.

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    Re: Advise for the clueless please?

    Give him a call and see how that goes before committing to meeting him in person. Then make that first meeting, and a few after that, in very public places. And then if he still wants you to cook later and you want to do it, tell him he buys the food and you'll cook it.

    Seriously, though, talk to him on the phone. You can really tell a lot over the phone about how you'll feel about the person when you finally meet face to face. If you get a weird vibe then, you can end it easier.

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    Re: Advise for the clueless please?

    Quote Originally Posted by krystledm View Post
    i forgot, also he mentioned a dinner date...only thing is, he wants me to cook, i don't honestly mind, but i'd thik that would definatly come later so as no one knows where the other lives...whats an alternative so i don't look like i'm avoiding the idea and more just, postponing

    I would call him .. but I wouldnt have a dinner for 2 with you cooking.. say if you want dinner.. lets go and and eat.. (that way there are people around) but I would start to talk to him ove rhte phone first.. so you get a sort of feeling about what hes like..

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    Re: Advise for the clueless please?

    Quote Originally Posted by Spidergrrrl View Post
    Hell, if this is a first meeting, don't even do dinner - do a Starbucks mtg. But whatever you do, make sure it's a public place in a good area - and let people know where you will be.

    Maybe take another couple. and how old is hee.
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    Re: Advise for the clueless please?

    Quote Originally Posted by krystledm View Post
    i forgot, also he mentioned a dinner date...only thing is, he wants me to cook, i don't honestly mind, but i'd thik that would definatly come later so as no one knows where the other lives...whats an alternative so i don't look like i'm avoiding the idea and more just, postponing
    ok, so he is assuming a lot already. Me do not bother ,,,run the other way. if he sends you his number out of the clear blue expecting you to call, or for you to cook when you have only emailed back and forth a month, run don't walk! you and others assume those on the other side of the net are ok folks, we have heard stories of bad things happening. if he is a good guy and you want to continue then email for more time, call if you like but use a cell phone. and by all mean cook for no one you never met, thats nuts!!! you do not invite someone into your home you do not know, and no matter how much he says he is nice, normal or other wise do you know this to be a fact??
    never bring anyone into your home, this is your safe domain!! I will say this again, your home is the safe place. if you have a need to meet him, then go somewhere you can meet in public, and that is during the day, not at night. be careful and do not let your guard down. I know folks are lonely, thats why we do disney meets. so you can meet the right guy thru meeting others and being together. now if he is a lover of disney and wants to meet with say all the micecaht meeters well hey, you got a crowd to be safe in
    other wise do not take chances. good luck

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    Re: Advise for the clueless please?

    a double date could work, but please please please meet in a public place. Like, the first few times (if you keep liking him.
    Until you get to know him, make sure a friend knows where you are and who your with, even plan a phone call in the middle of your date.
    Him asking for dinner at your place is extremely creepy.

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    Re: Advise for the clueless please?

    He is either: a) creepy or b)crazy.
    Or maybe both?

    I've met some cool people through the internet but I've met some real crackers too.

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    Block your number when you call......if you go on a date, make sure it's well lit, public place or a double date. You can never be to careful these days.

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    Re: Advise for the clueless please?

    OMG! I just hate this whole idea. I had a cyber stalker that took things offline...like calling my husband to report I was having an affair, because I refused to have an affair. He is the reason I don't go into chat rooms.

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