I just need to get this off my chest. Let me give you a little family history...
My parents were married for 22 years and then my Dad suddenly left to be with the other woman. It took the family almost by shock. That was in '93. My oldest sister J was already married and out of the house when this took place. My sister K was the object of my Dad's mind games to pit her against our Mom. I was only 12 when this all happened and was in total denial even though deep down I had an idea.
Anyways, we didn't really have a relationsihp with our Dad till six or seven years later. Things went okay for a while but it always felt forced and a show more than anything. So K and I eventually distanced ourselves from him for the last 4 years. While J is still in heavy contact with him.
He will call J and constantly tell her about how he never hears from either K or I and what's going on with us and this and that. Well my complaint is that why doesn't he ever call me direct. My number has been the same for 7 years. I feel that it's time that he proved to me that he wants to be a part of my life by making an effort rather than harassing J about K and I.
Well now that I'm getting married it's brought up this huge issue with J against K and I. He wanted to walk me down the aisle. I said no, Mom is going to. I haven't talked to him in over a year much less seen him. The next topic was that he's all upset and J thinks I should designate a "Father/Daughter" dance. I told her I'd dance with him and enjoy him being there but I'm not going to annouce it. To me that says that things are peachy keen between us. It's a lie of what isn't there.
Now that we're just about a week away I sent out emails and made calls to everyone about the rehearsal and dinner (We're doing pizza and just hanging out at the Hall before decorating). J called and said that he really wants to be at the rehearsal dinner. Okay, well he's not involved in the wedding party and I've gotten thank you gifts for everyone that has helped us out and will be there that night. AKA I don't have one for him. She told me to get him a card. To say what I don't know. So anyways, what I told her is that he is more than welcome to come to the dinner portion and hang out but I still won't have anything for him or his wife.
I'm just getting so frustrated with this. So all the sudden since there is a big event in my life he's all upset that he's not top on the list to be involved. And why doesn't he call me instead of my sister. Right now I'm stressed about all this coming together as it is and I don't need this and she just won't quit.
Thank you for listening to my vent and frustrations! Hope everyone is having a great Thursday...
Only a few more days till I'll be in Disneyland and my fiance keeps reminding of it.