I am so sorry for your loss. Many people say time will heal the pain, and it does a bit. When we lost our dogs of 15 years we were deeply saddened and it hurt a lot, but we realized we were so sad because there was an emptiness throughout the house. About a week later a stray dog came into our lives, although he never took the place his and our two new dogs characteristics make us smile and remember our dogs we lost. We still cry about them because we miss them, they were family. But thanks to our new dogs we can also smile and laugh about them now. My advice in a nutshell: grieve, let all your feelings out...but try to move on because that's what your doggy would want you to do. Go to an animal shelter or pound and adopt a new dog that makes you smile, not exactly the same way your other dog did, but the dog that makes your heart flutter when you see it knowing that it could help you through your grieving process and bring you happiness. Best of luck.
I lost two of my dogs, and I feel I never "got over it", it took me quite a few years to actually talk about them because I was afraid of the pain. But the best way to lessen the pain of it all is to think of your friend at their best and at your best, all your fun and happy times. Don't hesitate to get another pet, they definitely help fill the emptiness, and while you can never replace a friend you can always get a nice new friend to add on.
I've beent here and it's very hard. You have my sympathy. Just know, it doesn't ever go away but it does get easier. Eventually, you start remembering all of the great times you had more often than you miss them. But, surprises happen. I still cry every time I drive by the vet we took him to. And I bawled at Christmas when I suddenly came across his stocking and he wasn't there, 9 months later. And months after that coming across another picture of him. But, I remember the great times and how much he was my baby and I'm now able to smile and laugh at the picture of him with his head stuck inside a Burger King bag, etc.
"Dance like no one is watching. Sing like no one is listening. Love like you've never been hurt and live like it's heaven on Earth."
— Mark Twain
Sorry for your loss. Its amazing how deeply these creatures we let into our lives truely become one of our family. They never judge us for who or what we are, and they love and adore us unconditionally. As everyone has said, it will hurt for a long time, but as with many things time will make it better. You will never forget the love and joy they brought to your life, but in time you will be able to remember the fun joyful times, and the pain of their leaving will lessen greatly.
I'm so sorry. Growing up we had to goldens. They are both gone now, but they were so old it was not a shock. It was just their time. When my cat never came home and we never found him I was beside myself. It took months to get over it and I still get sad thinking about it. If anything happened to my puppy I wuld probably have to be medicated. My thoughts go out to you.
i am truly traumatized has anyone else lost a dog and was truly saddened? How long did it take you to get over the event? Does anyone have any advice for it?
I lost my chi mix Shuggie last June...we adopted her from a pet rescue, and she spent the last six of her 11 years with us...she died three months ago last Sunday. She was my best friend, and I still cry sometimes, miss her, grieve for her, and talk to her when I'm looking up to the heavens.
I posted a similar thread when it happened, and was amazed (but not relly surprised) by the love and support I got here...a lot of MiceChatters have gone through what we are going through.
We have a new chi/pomeranian mix puppy...named Angel...and she's a bright light in our lives. She knows she won't replace Shuggie, nor should it be that way.
Bottom line...allow yourself time to grieve. I was basically unable to function for at least three or four days. They may not be humans, but they are like members of our family. Feel free to contact me anytime...I'm so sorry for your loss.
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
I'm sorry to hear of your loss. Sometimes it takes a very long time to get over the death of one of your family members. Our pets are every bit as much our family as our human relatives.
I don't know if you've ever read this, for me it's very sad but uplifting. It also gives me hope for the future because I know that all my beloved pets are waiting for me there. It's called - The Rainbow Bridge.
Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together.
There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.
The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.
You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.
I'm sorry this is hard. Unfortunately, when we have pets, we will generally outlive them. Recognize the love they gave you, and how much you loved them, and let it go. It will take time but eventually you can remember the silly things they did and laugh instead of cry.
We had to get a "new" dog too soon because our remaining dog was grieving and his personality totally changed. He was lonesome. He has a friend again and all is well.
The new dog isn't the same as the old dog but you make new memories, hang new pictures on the wall.
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