Results 1 to 15 of 15
  1. #1

    • Member
    • Offline

    Join Date
    Jun 2006
    Location
    Modesto, CA
    Posts
    345

    An adoption story - long, but hopefully worth reading!

    Can I share our adoption story? It’s really very exciting, finally.

    My husband and I have been trying to adopt our little girl for over two years. It’s been complicated. When her bio parents lost custody of her she was our foster child for nearly a year, along with 2 of her siblings. When time came for permanent placement of the children, she and her baby brother were placed with a bio aunt and uncle for adoption.

    Aunt and Uncle wanted little brother – not so much big sister. She visited with us frequently and for long periods of time. Finally, we decided to ask for legal guardianship/adoption of her ourselves. Since Aunt and Uncle didn’t want her, we thought it would be easy. The state refused to separate the children.

    We backed off, they had full custody and proceeded with their adoption of her and little brother. The day her adoption was final, she came to live with us under a “Caregiver’s Authorization Affadavit”. That was in January 2005 and she was almost 8 years old.

    We waited a few months, then hired a paralegal to file an adoption petition. We paid all the adoption fees and had her “parents” waive their parental rights. We went before a judge -- he refused to terminate their rights. He said that if he terminated their rights it would reverse their adoption of her and place her back in the custody of her bio parents. He suggested we pursue legal guardianship and a legal name change. We did.

    Again, we went before the judge. He said that in order to acquire legal guardianship of a child, we needed consent of all living relatives - parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles. Well, by virtue of her prior adoption, her bio MOM is now her AUNT and refused to give consent.

    Two failed attempts to make her ours. And LOTS of money.

    Now, we are working with California Social Services out of Oakland. We hired a “Placement Provider” to meet with her parents and have them sign a “placement agreement” giving her to us. We signed the same paper accepting her from them. And we gave everyone a LOT more money. I talked to our social worker today. She guarantees us a court date before July 17th.

    And to our excitement, the ministers and elders of our church came to visit us on Monday night. They brought us a check from an endowment at our church which will cover about 1/3 of our adoption expenses.

    We are feeling very blessed.

  2. #2

    • Hangin Around
    • Offline

    Join Date
    May 2006
    Posts
    1,328

    Re: An adoption story - long, but hopefully worth reading!

    That is wonderful news!

  3. #3

    •   
      MiceChat Round-Up Crew
    • has a brand new mindset
    • Offline

    Join Date
    Oct 2005
    Location
    1157 miles from home
    Posts
    4,892

    Re: An adoption story - long, but hopefully worth reading!

    What an amazing story! You and your husband are very special people to go through all this effort rather than just "let her live with you". I hope she really understands the love you are giving her. It really shows that the statement "blood is thicker than water" is just silliness.

    HUGS!!
    I love my awesome crazy wonderful friends!!

    "Do you remember in kindergarten, how you’d meet a kid,
    then 10 seconds later you’d be playing like you were best friends?"
    * * *


  4. #4

    • Jail Bondswoman of RCMC
    • Offline

    Join Date
    May 2006
    Location
    Fresno, CA
    Posts
    8,788
    Blog Entries
    3

    Re: An adoption story - long, but hopefully worth reading!

    That is good news.

    I hope for the best with you and your child.

  5. #5

    • Banned User
    • Offline

    Join Date
    May 2005
    Posts
    3,365

    Re: An adoption story - long, but hopefully worth reading!

    I love adoption stories because I was adopted

    I was adopted at 12 though, quite the different story but a good one since most people only want young kids.

  6. #6

    • All you need is LOVE
    • Offline

    Join Date
    Feb 2005
    Location
    Dland USA
    Posts
    9,141

    Re: An adoption story - long, but hopefully worth reading!

    So great I hope it all works out Hugs


  7. #7

    • Senior Minion
    • Offline

    Join Date
    Jan 2005
    Posts
    8,797

    Re: An adoption story - long, but hopefully worth reading!

    Thanks for sharing this, this is a bittersweet story with a happy ending.

    My mother and her sister were both adopted, so its great to hear this happen to a fortunate child like they did.
    1st Amendment-Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the Government for a redress of grievances.

  8. #8

    • She was sweet as a peach
    • Offline

    Join Date
    Mar 2006
    Location
    in a pineapple way
    Posts
    1,246

    Re: An adoption story - long, but hopefully worth reading!

    That is a great story and I hope the ending is just as wonderful!!

  9. #9

    • most magical vaca ever
    • Offline

    Join Date
    Sep 2005
    Location
    NJ
    Posts
    19,288

    Re: An adoption story - long, but hopefully worth reading!

    You are truly a wonderful family!

    God Bless You!!
    ~~~~~~

  10. #10

    • Minion
    • Offline

    Join Date
    Jan 2005
    Location
    Tucson, AZ
    Posts
    1,032

    Re: An adoption story - long, but hopefully worth reading!

    It just drives me crazy that they are making it so difficult! It is so wonderful that you guys want to make her a part of your family and give her a loving, stable home.
    Good luck with everything and keep us posted!

  11. #11

    • itty bitty
    • Offline

    Join Date
    Sep 2006
    Location
    The sun shines wherever I go
    Posts
    9,632
    Blog Entries
    29

    Re: An adoption story - long, but hopefully worth reading!

    Good luck with everything!
    "I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn't arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I'm going to be happy in it. "Groucho Marx

  12. #12

    • love my friends
    • Offline

    Join Date
    Sep 2005
    Location
    canadian living in las vegas, nv
    Posts
    36,995

    Re: An adoption story - long, but hopefully worth reading!

    that is so wonderful.. great news

    Friends for life

  13. #13

    • Playtester
    • Offline

    Join Date
    Feb 2005
    Location
    Over Yonder
    Posts
    258

    Re: An adoption story - long, but hopefully worth reading!

    Congratualtions on the "new" baby Good luck! She is lucky to have such caring parents.
    It's Just me, Jenn.
    "Crowded classrooms and half-day sessions are a tragic waste of our greatest national resource - the minds of our children." ~Walt Disney

  14. #14

    • Curiouser and Curiouser
    • Offline

    Join Date
    Jan 2005
    Location
    Washington
    Posts
    757

    Re: An adoption story - long, but hopefully worth reading!

    Amazing...What a lucky little girl to have you and your family in her life

  15. #15

    • rainy day girl
    • Offline

    Join Date
    Apr 2005
    Location
    walking in the rain
    Posts
    8,438
    Blog Entries
    68

    Re: An adoption story - long, but hopefully worth reading!

    This is a really wonderful story. Thanks for taking the time to share your experience with us, and best of everything to you and your family.
    Looking for the truth about giraffes? http://www.menacinggiraffes.blogspot.com/

Similar Threads

  1. How long do you give a book until you stop reading?
    By Nancywitt in forum Disney and Industry Theatrical, Music and Publishing Discussion
    Replies: 27
    Last Post: 01-15-2009, 10:55 PM
  2. Which story is Belle reading?
    By fairygoodmother in forum MiceChat Main Lounge
    Replies: 4
    Last Post: 01-16-2008, 10:19 AM
  3. A long story about how Micechat changed my perspective
    By larasound in forum Disneyland Resort
    Replies: 19
    Last Post: 12-01-2007, 03:26 PM
  4. Adoption?
    By PrincessY in forum Gibson Girls
    Replies: 40
    Last Post: 07-13-2007, 07:16 PM
  5. Attractions that are worth it, no matter how long the wait
    By MickeyMania in forum Tokyo Disney Resort
    Replies: 39
    Last Post: 08-20-2006, 08:40 AM

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •