Relationship Deal-Breakers

BassBone · 10-09-2007, 08:30 PM

So let's say you meet another person who interests you at a club or work or school or wherever. You strike up a conversation and you and he or she are really hitting it off. You share interests, you like the same movies, you laugh at her or his jokes, you drink the same brand of beer, etc... Along comes one thing that is an immediate turn-off, enough that you say you are going back away and would prefer that he or she didn't follow you. What is that thing? (All this is in a romantic context, not friendship, etc.)

With me it might be smoking. Not only have I always considered it kind of icky, but I am mildly allergic to cigarette smoke (not cigar or pipe smoke, but cigarette). Smoking is just not something I think I could tolerate in a significant other. I have friends that smoke and I don't mind that they do as long as they don't blow it in my face, but I don't think that's something I could deal with in a girlfriend. So what's yours?

PrincessY · 10-09-2007, 08:40 PM

Definitely smoking. My dad died of lung cancer complications and I won't go though that again if I can help it.

Plus it is just disgusting to be around. IMHO.

ksejr1 · 10-09-2007, 08:50 PM

someone without a sense of humor, i cant be with someone who can not make me laugh

steamboatpete · 10-09-2007, 08:51 PM

It's a moot point for me now, but back when it mattered....

1. Being GUD or having just relocated from a GUD place from which her family did not join her.
2. Illegal drug use
3. Loyalties to UCLA

BassBone · 10-09-2007, 09:00 PM

Gud?

SCUBAbe · 10-09-2007, 09:04 PM

an over confident personality, especially when it seemed forced...also if they addressed their friends as dude and did that nose in the air thing for "what's up"....I hate that.

teeth, yellow or really crooked.

knittingknerd · 10-09-2007, 09:20 PM

-Primping. I don't want a guy who is girlier/takes longer to get ready than I do.
-taking oneself too seriously. I am so not that way and make fun of myself sooooo much and if a guy does that... dude.

tiggerfan · 10-09-2007, 09:23 PM

I assume it goes without saying that they have to at least accept the Disney thing.

Trekkie Dad · 10-09-2007, 09:28 PM

Definitely smoking. Cooled a possible relationship in college because she smoked. And it wasn't just the cigarettes. (But that was in the sixties.)

SCUBAbe · 10-09-2007, 09:30 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by tiggerfan

I assume it goes without saying that they have to at least accept the Disney thing.

that's a non issue for me as long as they don't mind me going. My Bf will not go to Disneyland with me. He doesn't like it at all. He went once when he was 8, in the 60's. He did say he would go to epcot one day.

Spidergrrrl · 10-09-2007, 09:30 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BassBone

Gud?

I'm wondering what that is, myself.

Turn offs for me:
1) smoking
2) chauvinism/being patronizing or condescending
3) someone who takes himself too seriously

larasound · 10-09-2007, 09:39 PM

Back when it mattered, my insecurities did not allow me to effectively cope with a woman who has deep emotional friendships with men whom she communicates with regularly. I know, I suck, but I just can’t deal with it.

DLandFansAZ · 10-09-2007, 11:34 PM

Simple answer for me, closed minded people. If you can't accept people for who they are then "be gone." Hold on, did I just contradict myself? If I don't like closed minded people because they don't accept people for who they are then I should accept these people for who they are. Who cares I still don't like them.

Seriously though, dating a person that was closed minded would cause me to walk away. Heck if I was closed minded I would loose probably half of my friends.

Sully · 10-09-2007, 11:42 PM

How they treat people in the service industry such as waiters, doormen, etc.

If they treat them like "the hired help" I'd kick 'em to the curb.

Druggas · 10-10-2007, 10:13 AM

GUD= geographically undesirable.

A touch of syphilis is usually a turn off to me.

10-09-2007, 08:30 PM	#1
BassBone is too darn hot. Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: It's all about the LBC, yo! Posts: 13,990	Relationship Deal-Breakers So let's say you meet another person who interests you at a club or work or school or wherever. You strike up a conversation and you and he or she are really hitting it off. You share interests, you like the same movies, you laugh at her or his jokes, you drink the same brand of beer, etc... Along comes one thing that is an immediate turn-off, enough that you say you are going back away and would prefer that he or she didn't follow you. What is that thing? (All this is in a romantic context, not friendship, etc.) With me it might be smoking. Not only have I always considered it kind of icky, but I am mildly allergic to cigarette smoke (not cigar or pipe smoke, but cigarette). Smoking is just not something I think I could tolerate in a significant other. I have friends that smoke and I don't mind that they do as long as they don't blow it in my face, but I don't think that's something I could deal with in a girlfriend. So what's yours? __________________ The Right Honorable Count Boogie Bonz of Random, at your service. On Track for Weight Loss!

10-09-2007, 08:40 PM	#2
PrincessY Winter in Oceanside... Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Oceanside, CA Posts: 13,462	Re: Relationship Deal-Breakers Definitely smoking. My dad died of lung cancer complications and I won't go though that again if I can help it. Plus it is just disgusting to be around. IMHO.

10-09-2007, 08:50 PM	#3
ksejr1 pronounced, Casey Jr. 1 Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 25,540	Re: Relationship Deal-Breakers someone without a sense of humor, i cant be with someone who can not make me laugh __________________ Orlando doing good http://www.liveleak.com/view?i=9a0_1212091354&p=1 www.Myspace.com/butterflytat20 Princess of Randomness

10-09-2007, 09:00 PM	#5
BassBone is too darn hot. Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: It's all about the LBC, yo! Posts: 13,990	Re: Relationship Deal-Breakers Gud? __________________ The Right Honorable Count Boogie Bonz of Random, at your service. On Track for Weight Loss!

10-09-2007, 09:04 PM	#6
SCUBAbe no flash photography... Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: In my own little world.. Posts: 15,639	Re: Relationship Deal-Breakers an over confident personality, especially when it seemed forced...also if they addressed their friends as dude and did that nose in the air thing for "what's up"....I hate that. teeth, yellow or really crooked. __________________ Disney Pictures

10-09-2007, 09:20 PM	#7
knittingknerd Souls don't die... Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Anacortes, WA Posts: 7,464 Blog Entries: 66	Re: Relationship Deal-Breakers -Primping. I don't want a guy who is girlier/takes longer to get ready than I do. -taking oneself too seriously. I am so not that way and make fun of myself sooooo much and if a guy does that... dude.

10-09-2007, 09:23 PM	#8
tiggerfan Minion Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: 347.75 Miles From DL Hub Posts: 3,566	Re: Relationship Deal-Breakers I assume it goes without saying that they have to at least accept the Disney thing. __________________ Always remember that the size of a man's heart is not judged by how much he loves, but by how much he is loved by others

10-09-2007, 09:28 PM	#9
Trekkie Dad Recently retired Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: exit 474B on I-5 Posts: 4,303	Re: Relationship Deal-Breakers Definitely smoking. Cooled a possible relationship in college because she smoked. And it wasn't just the cigarettes. (But that was in the sixties.) __________________ Pictures from the Surf City AIDS Ride on Oct 4. 2008: 8190 miles total 2009: Last ride 63 miles, 7727 miles total.

10-09-2007, 11:34 PM	#13
DLandFansAZ Wooden Coin Guy Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Phoenix, AZ Posts: 1,802	Re: Relationship Deal-Breakers Simple answer for me, closed minded people. If you can't accept people for who they are then "be gone." Hold on, did I just contradict myself? If I don't like closed minded people because they don't accept people for who they are then I should accept these people for who they are. Who cares I still don't like them. Seriously though, dating a person that was closed minded would cause me to walk away. Heck if I was closed minded I would loose probably half of my friends.

10-09-2007, 11:42 PM	#14
Sully Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: S.F. Bay Area Posts: 170	Re: Relationship Deal-Breakers How they treat people in the service industry such as waiters, doormen, etc. If they treat them like "the hired help" I'd kick 'em to the curb.

10-10-2007, 10:13 AM	#15
Druggas Hooterville, USA Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: The Haney House Posts: 4,389	Re: Relationship Deal-Breakers GUD= geographically undesirable. A touch of syphilis is usually a turn off to me. __________________ This has been a Filmways presentation dahling.

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