Iím not new here, but have never opened up a thread, and Iím needing some advice so please give me your thoughts, opinions and comments. Iíll be happy to hear anything you say.
Hereís the situation:
My husbandsí 17 yr old son lives with us. Heís been with us for 4 years. My husband and I have a 5 yr old daughter who loves her older brother to death. Their bond is really strong.
Recently he claims that we ask him to baby sit his sister too much. We usually donít pay him, as we are extremely tight on funds, but he does get to play on the computer when he watches her. (His computer time is limited on other days that heís not watching her) The time he watches her is typically at night and includes a bath, and getting ready for bed.. The bedtime routine can take an hour to accomplish in all. Sheís very good and goes to bed without any trouble or getting out of bed. (She loves going to bed, so sheís very easy to put to bed. He always says that she wasnít any trouble at all.) During the daytime hours of watching her, she watches TV since itís easier for him. There have been a few occasions (once every two months or so) that weíve had him watch her on a Saturday or Sunday for an 8 hr time frame, but that is rare
We ask him on average to watch her 5 maybe 6/7 times a month for durations that range between 1 hour to 5/6 hours at a time. On average itís 2 hours or less.
If youíre a parent with children with a wide spread in age like ours, do you have them watching their siblings too? Is it wrong to ask him to watch his sister? What, in your opinion is too much?