Disneyland Relationship Drama

[Alice In Neverland]

Awwww. Poor u.


Personally, if someone causes you that much trouble, I think that I wouldn't talk to that person as much as before. Pencile apparently doesn't quite know how to organize itself (I suppose) to be able to go to dlr. Just my opinion.

[firebolt413]

Just tell "pencil" that you are VERY SORRY for over reacting and to please forgive you. Then take her out to DLR and give her the best time she has ever had there. Just make it up to her. Don't even mention this argument you guys had over texting. Like... buy her stuff and do things like that. Do what she wants, and then maybe go see a movie at AMC in DTD.

[seenoevil]

Originally Posted by firebolt413

Just tell "pencil" that you are VERY SORRY for over reacting and to please forgive you. Then take her out to DLR and give her the best time she has ever had there. Just make it up to her. Don't even mention this argument you guys had over texting. Like... buy her stuff and do things like that. Do what she wants, and then maybe go see a movie at AMC in DTD.

He said he was sorry, why does he have to "make it up to her?" He's 16 for crying out loud, he's gonna go through this kind of stuff a lot. They're just buddies. Buy her stuff?

[Goover]

So we sorted things out and they forgive me now.

I've come to the conclusion that Pencile just has a big ego and really doesn't take me as anything more than somebody to talk to when their bored or want to go to Disneyland.

I'm really nothing to Pencile so we've sort of stopped talking.

At this point I just need to get over it and enjoy the parks alone again.

I've told Pencile time and time again that I have feelings for them, but apparently their just blowing me off as some acqaintance who they used to go to Disneyland with and who doesn't really mean much.

It's sort of sad but I really need to get over it.

We're not mad at eachother, I just realized Pencile's true inner self.

And with Halloween Time at the parks I'm sure I can keep my mind of of them.

[astrologic]

Originally Posted by Goover

I've come to the conclusion that Pencile just has a big ego and really doesn't take me as anything more than somebody to talk to when their bored or want to go to Disneyland.

I'm really nothing to Pencile so we've sort of stopped talking.

I've told Pencile time and time again that I have feelings for them, but apparently their just blowing me off as some acqaintance who they used to go to Disneyland with and who doesn't really mean much.

Okay I really hope these statements are backed up by further talks you've had with them that you haven't shared with us. Especially the conclusion of the big ego.

Also, telling Pencile you have feelings for them repeatedly isn't going to change how they feel about YOU. If anything, it's going to turn them off of you. You can't force feelings on anyone.

Once again, I'm not sure what has gone down between you and Pencile lately, but I am hoping these aren't overreactions or assumptions. If they are, remember to take a breath, step back, and look at the big picture. Remember, Pencile has feelings too. They may just see you as a Disneyland buddy, and what is wrong with that? You were VMK buddies to start with. We all have friends that we enjoy doing one activity with more so than other friends. That's perfectly normal and okay.

[Goover]

Originally Posted by astrologic

Okay I really hope these statements are backed up by further talks you've had with them that you haven't shared with us. Especially the conclusion of the big ego.

Also, telling Pencile you have feelings for them repeatedly isn't going to change how they feel about YOU. If anything, it's going to turn them off of you. You can't force feelings on anyone.

Once again, I'm not sure what has gone down between you and Pencile lately, but I am hoping these aren't overreactions or assumptions. If they are, remember to take a breath, step back, and look at the big picture. Remember, Pencile has feelings too. They may just see you as a Disneyland buddy, and what is wrong with that? You were VMK buddies to start with. We all have friends that we enjoy doing one activity with more so than other friends. That's perfectly normal and okay.

I'm not angry at anyone.

And my conclusions are from multiple conversations we've had that I have not shared on this thread.

That's all.

[Joshnyah]

I dont know how old you are but life is to short to sweat the small stuff. You obviously live in the greatest state in the world, you go to disneyland randomly, go find yourself another pencil, Just go to disneyland and have fun go single rider some rides and meet a new pencil, Trust me I know its eaiser said then done But life is to short to be complicated, Live love and learn and oneday everything you wish will be given to you. You deserve only the best. -Im Dr Phil Please tune in tommorow where my guest will be Donald Duck.

[Broadway&Disneylvr]

Honestly, I read that story and I feel sorry for both of you.
I know how you feel. Its sad. I think that he/she ditched you... and you had reason to belief it was on purpose. Your mind took over and attached to that detail. That's why you said what you said when he/she said that they had gone to DLR without you. I get that way a lot... its taking things a bit to personally.
I think that he/she should have invited you again, to try to make up for missing out on that day you two had scheduled to meet.
I'm really sorry that happened to you. I think you should try to talk to her/him and just apologize. Admit you did something wrong... and hopefully she'll/ he'll forgive you.
When you go to disney, think of Disney. Don't think of him/her. Think of the magic. Think of Disney. Don't let this ruin your life and what you live. I have personal experience in that department... you can't let her/him be the reason you like Disney. Remember why you like it in the first place, and that force can overcome your pain.

[Goover]

Biggest Fear:

What If i were to run into pencile at Disneyland now that we've basically stopped talking to eachother.

How should I deal with that? O_o

[Broadway&Disneylvr]

If you are still mad at Pencile, I wouldn't say anything to him/her if you saw him/her at Disney.
If you aren't still mad, maybe start a conversation... see what comes up.

[roxystar68]

I'm sorry you have to deal with any sort of relationship drama. At your age, you should be enjoying your relationships. Unfortunately, no matter what age you are, there will always be some sort of drama (although the type of drama certainly changes with age).
I don't have any great advice to offer, as pretty much everything I have to say has already been covered by everyone else. I can say, however, that you're going to have to learn to deal with plans falling through. I'm sorry he couldn't make it, but it sounded like he was genuinely upset. It doesn't mean he likes you any less. The plans I make with my boyfriend fall through sometimes, but it doesn't mean he doesn't want to see me. I would try to remember that you have your entire life to have serious relationships. Focus on having fun in this one.

[astrologic]

If you see Pencile, be polite. Give them a smile and keep walking. If you feel you're on good enough terms, say hello.

[Bibbidi-Bobbidi-Bo]

Not sure if I even want to voice my opinion about this....Life is way TOO SHORT for this stuff.

Forgive me if you disgaree with me but I think you were rude to her during that text convo that you shared with us. Sounds like she really couldnt make it that day with you, and she doesnt have to invite you EVERYTIME she decides to go. You could have approached this in a lot calmer way than you did. You have no right being upset with her to the point of telling her what she told you was BS, because it wasnt. Just because you might have been hurt in the past doesnt mean everyone is the same. And if you had feelings for this girl long distant could have worked if thats what you two really wanted. Saying you have different friends and go to different schools is an excuse. If you have feelings for her try it and see where it leads. Obviously she wanted something with you.

Perhaps its too late, okay than you move on. I mean that in the nicest way possible. Enjoy Disneyland dont stop going because you were with that person the last time you visited! DONT EVER LEFT SOMEONE prevent you from enjoying the places you love to go! If you run into her you decide to be polite and say hi or walk the other way! I dont know how old you are, but life is way too short to be worried about the small stuff. Enjoy your life and enjoy Disneyland! You will def find someone who will make you enjoy Disneyland again.

[Gino USMC]

Wow dude wow. I think you just need to relax mang. And believe me dude, there are plenty wenches in Pirates of the Caribbean if you know what I mean. Or plenty of fish in the sea if you like that analogy better.

[astrologic]

Nicely put, BBB.