What do you do when friends go bad?

[danceguest]

Ok at school my friends call you dumb and always make you feel it? They heard you were spreading rumors about them when you weren't. They find you a backstabber. They block you off all messgaing systems so you cant talk them, even to explain. They rip up notes you give to them, and suddenly disappear everytime you try and talk to them, than what do you do?

[Disneyland Daddy]

You find new friends - that is what you do.
Clearly these individuals are NOT friends.

Get new ones.

[Sasafratz]

I agree with Disneyland Daddy. Real friends don't do that to friends.

Maybe give it a week or so and if they still do not want to listen to what you have to say, then I say it's time to find yourself some new friends.

I know it's hard but when you get older, you'll learn that true friends will stick by you, be supportive and you may not always agree with each other but you'll know that they love and respect you for who you are.

Very important note. Don't let anyone tell you, you're dumb. When someone says things like that to you or makes you feel that way, it's what we call a "toxic relationship". Get away from these people. They are not worth losing your self-esteem.

Chin up and remember that your life should not revolve around these so called "friends". Move on and in the end, you'll be the biggest winner and they the biggest losers. Take care.

[roxystar68]

Hang out with new people, and everything will fall into place. I'm sorry to hear that you're going through this, but I promise, things will get better.

[Hakuna Makarla]

Same thing happened to me, person I thought was my friend said I was not being nice, gossiped and she did dirty things behind my back. I walked away,people like that live for Drama and can not function with out it!!. if they do crap like that then there not your friend and never really were. walk away and do not look back, with friends like that your enemys are far better and more trust worthy. in the long run your life will be better off for not knowing that person!

[Alice's Wonderland]

I hate that! Truly though you have to find new friends. If a person is doing that to you then they aren't your true friends. My best friend and I have been friends for 8 years now and we have never fought, we one of us gets upset we talk it out. None of this silent treament stuff. And I know that it's hard to get new friends, especially halfway through the year but they're out there. Chances are there are people who don't like your friend and suddenly you have something in common. They aren't worth it, if you tried to apologize and they wouldn't let you then let them go. And don't take them back! Good luck to you!

[danceguest]

Originally Posted by Alice's Wonderland

I hate that! Truly though you have to find new friends. If a person is doing that to you then they aren't your true friends. My best friend and I have been friends for 8 years now and we have never fought, we one of us gets upset we talk it out. None of this silent treament stuff. And I know that it's hard to get new friends, especially halfway through the year but they're out there. Chances are there are people who don't like your friend and suddenly you have something in common. They aren't worth it, if you tried to apologize and they wouldn't let you then let them go. And don't take them back! Good luck to you!

Ok well thank you everyone. I actually got an email today from one of them. This girl, who isn't really our friend but just hangs out with us heard me talk to a girl in class, and she told them. Well we were talking about her boyfriend, and i just said-"He's not nice at all, hes a selfish guy looking for attention." When this girl told them, she changed it around thinking i was talking about them.

So were good now, i think.. But should i trust them, or should i get new friends?

[ddanielle]

Originally Posted by danceguest

Ok well thank you everyone. I actually got an email today from one of them. This girl, who isn't really our friend but just hangs out with us heard me talk to a girl in class, and she told them. Well we were talking about her boyfriend, and i just said-"He's not nice at all, hes a selfish guy looking for attention." When this girl told them, she changed it around thinking i was talking about them.

So were good now, i think.. But should i trust them, or should i get new friends?

If you stay friends with them just be careful. I would also get a couple new friends just in case it happens again.

[Alice's Wonderland]

Trust once broken, is hard to regain. If you believe that they've had a change of heart and THEY HAVE APOLOGIZED for not listening to you, then I whole heartedly believe in second chances. But if you feel that you might be holding a grudge, feel that they aren't sorry then find new friends.

[wookiegirl]

Well one of my friends had been talking behind my back and then heard I was doing it back(which I wasn't) so she completely stoped talking to me so I tried for a few weeks to explain and then I moved on and it turns out neither of us talked about each other as we thought but by now we are too different to be friends again so we jut act like we don't know or care about each other. It was had I think because We had been friends off and on since 1st grade, but we found new friends.

Your so called friends sound like the dumb ones, not you. Make new friends or go back to your old crowd(If you have one).

Edit: since you are "good" I would have to agree with ddanielle and still have some back ups if they pull that stupid stuff on you again.

[Disneyland Daddy]

Originally Posted by Hakuna Makarla

Same thing happened to me, person I thought was my friend said I was not being nice, gossiped and she did dirty things behind my back. I walked away,people like that live for Drama and can not function with out it!!. if they do crap like that then there not your friend and never really were. walk away and do not look back, with friends like that your enemys are far better and more trust worthy. in the long run your life will be better off for not knowing that person!

I'd also like to say that this sort of thing happened to me when i was in 4th Grade. My friends that I had all of a sudden started exploring new things (smoking, cussing, etc). That was not something I did because my parents told me to stay away from that. So, then I became the 'pinata' of sorts, and everyone took a 'whack' at me - and it hurt...and those that were whacking the hardest were my friends - or former friends. I know what you are going through - don't get me wrong...but what I had to realize was that they were not friends. It was a hard realization at the time - heck, I was 10 years old. I hadn't changed - they had.

In the longrun, I was much better off withouth them.

[roxystar68]

They were smoking in fourth grade????????

[<3WillTurner]

Originally Posted by roxystar68

They were smoking in fourth grade????????

That's terrible. I hope not >_<
But i am confused to by my friends behavior it's a little aggravating because she treats me nice like we have been since 2nd grade and then around her new friends she ignores me and treats me like crap

[roxystar68]

I definitely know how that feels! Most definitely painful, but you will get through it!

[<3WillTurner]

Originally Posted by roxystar68

I definitely know how that feels! Most definitely painful, but you will get through it!

i hope so